Do You Have A Lisa In Your Life?

Have you watched Being Mary Jane yet? Its one of my favorite series and a lot of black women can totally relate to her story. There’s a bit of MJ in every one of us and everyday is a constant battle to fight the set status quo.

Why can’t we have it all…? A great career, good family, money, good relationships and awesome friends? That’s not too much to ask, surely!

MJ has a close friend called Lisa, who eventually commits suicide on season 3. Lisa is an accomplished Doctor who’s very pretty and lives in a beautiful house. But Lisa is the most unhappy person ever, she suffered from depression and as I have touched on it before, this illness steals your joy and make you feel inadequate and useless. Lisa is so envious of MJ’s life that she doesn’t see how well her life is. Do you have a friend like that? Well, I did.

Lisa goes as far as going after the man that MJ has always loved and in season 3 she dials MJ and includes her in the conversation she has with David, the guy MJ loves. She wants to hurt her friend so bad. This is how someone who is not content with their life will always come at you. They will try everything to make you feel like they do always and unfortunately, there’s nothing you can do to help them. I read an article about someone who said they sympathize with Lisa because they felt that she commited herself to their friendship and MJ didn’t. I disagree…While friendship is a 2-way street, you should never expect your friend to translate their love for you the way you do for them. We show love differently and service each other in a way we each know how. 

David might not have been the best partner for MJ but it wasn’t Lisa’s call to make. As friends, I am happy for you to share your opinion on my matter, but you need to afford me the opportunity to choose whether to go ahead with it or not. Don’t ever impose your rules of living on someone else.

About a month ago I was walking my friend, Dineo, home and we actually touched on the subject of happiness and the importance of being content with what you have right now. I appreciate her because she constantly reminds us of where we come from and the struggles we have been through because that makes us appreciate our accomplishments and the dreams we have. Happiness is an everyday job and you need to work towards being happy.  

Joe Budden once tweeted this “She don’t want your man. She wants your happiness… She just thinks he’s the source of it” – This is true in every sphere of life because people see you happy and think its because of a particular element but you make it a point to be happy inspite of everything going wrong in your life. Like I’ve said before, Those people whose lives seem to be smooth sailing and look like they don't encounter problems decide which part of their story they want to tell. Like a showreel, they edit out the worst moments, their problems, battles etc. So don’t ever look at someone’s life and be envious of it because you don’t know what they are choosing to hide.  You must also be weary of the advises you listen to because not everyone has your best interests at heart.

Be careful of that friend who will always reveal your secrets because ‘they can’t keep shut’. That person who will want to hurt you deliberately so they can feel good and think an apology with solve it. Protect your happiness because its costly.